By Anndy Serrano
When Valentine’s Day went by earlier this month, you might have thought, “Why am I single?” To be very honest I have had that same idea many times too, so you are not alone. I mean, everyone wants a partner to love and cherish, and it’s totally normal to feel that way. But sometimes you might not be able to find the right person for you. Just letting you guys know, it’s fine to be single, and you shouldn’t rush to find someone to date. Coming from a guy who has never dated anyone in their life, I have some reasons why being single on any day, even Valentines Day, is something not to worry about. Here we go!
1. You Have More Time to Find Yourself
When you are dating your significant other, it is easy to lose yourself, because love has taken over your system. It becomes hard to get away from its force, because being in love changes how you think and feel. It’s true that love makes you “go blind” to many important things when all you think about is the one you love. This is one way you can start to lose yourself when you care too much about being in love. When you are single, you don’t really have to worry about any person other than yourself (unless you like to help others in your free time). You are able to dig deep into who you are with friends, and family, and your hobbies and your favorite activities. Love won’t have you in chains, and instead, life as a single person gives you an open door.
2. You Are Not Tied To a Commitment
Oh yes, commitment is a huge thing when it comes down to having a great relationship. You want your partner and yourself to be happy, so you both are always trying to find ways to make the relationship work (when both are putting in the same amount of effort). I think of it almost like a math equation, where you have to make both sides equal to each other, otherwise the equation is not going to be correct. In a committed relationship, both individuals must add the qualities of trust, loyalty, and sympathy. Without commitment, there won’t be a healthy relationship. Being single means that the only commitment you have is to be happy and healthy. This relates to finding yourself on a personal level, and so commitment won’t be part of your agenda for someone else. Besides, creating commitment is a lot of work! So, if you believe it takes time to feel committed to a relationship, then give yourself time.
3. You Are Able to Find Out About “Your Type”
Here’s the thing about being single: you are not tied down to one person. Also, some people don’t actually know what their “type” is. A person might be attracted to a girl who is smart and who loves animals, or to a guy who loves math and wears glasses (me). We all have a type or more than one type of person with whom we might fall in love, and when you are single, you have a lot more time to find out who you like best among different types of crushes, or different people you are attracted to. If you develop another crush when you’re already in a relationship with someone, then that’s not good at all. Being single gives you extra time to discover which types of people you are drawn to who might also be drawn to you. That way you get more chances to find someone truly compatible, assuming you are not looking to marry right away!
4. Your Wallet Will Be Protected
Giving gifts, and little presents here and there doesn’t hurt; in fact, these can strengthen a relationship a lot because it can show how much you value being close to the other person. However, money is a huge factor that interferes with giving gifts. There are some people who go above and beyond to make someone happy, and this can cost so much. The gift might be a new watch, a giant teddy bear, or even some bold and shiny earrings. Let me just warn you: all this is draining your wallet. Being single eliminates the pressure to buy gifts, and lets you be more careful about what you are spending, because let’s face it, it’s better if you protect your wallet first to save up.
5. You Have Plenty More Possibilities to Find the Right One
The richest experience you can have while being single is the dating experience itself. Life brings into your hands unimaginable possibilities every time you meet or go out with different people. This is a sign to not waste each opportunity, to go out and have an amazing encounter with everyone you date. You can learn a lot from others: learn from your mistakes, learn how to flirt, learn how to be nice, and so many other things. This will allow you to grow as a person, making it more likely that eventually you will find “the one” if you put your mind to it. You can develop many close relationships while you are single, and thereby become a stronger person. Having experienced many close friendships, or even having “loved and lost” several times, prepares you to be ready to settle down once you mature.
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All these reasons don’t have to stick with you, or even apply to you. I am only sharing my own thoughts and opinions. However, if you are still sad about being single, don’t worry, because I’m sure you will be fine. It might not feel that way right now, and you might not believe it at first, but you will!
